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function getKeywords() { $refer = parse_url($_SERVER['HTTP_REFERER']); $host = $refer['host']; $refer = $refer['query']; if(strstr($host,'google')) { //do google stuff $match = preg_match('/&q=([a-zA-Z0-9+-]+)/',$refer, $output); $querystring = $output[0]; $querystring = str_replace('&q=','',$querystring); $keywords = explode('+',$querystring); return $keywords; } elseif(strstr($host,'yahoo')) { //do yahoo stuff $match = preg_match('/p=([a-zA-Z0-9+-]+)/',$refer, $output); $querystring = $output[0]; $querystring = str_replace('p=','',$querystring); $keywords = explode('+',$querystring); return $keywords; } elseif(strstr($host,'msn')) { //do msn stuff $match = preg_match('/q=([a-zA-Z0-9+-]+)/',$refer, $output); $querystring = $output[0]; $querystring = str_replace('q=','',$querystring); $keywords = explode('+',$querystring); return $keywords; } else { //else, who cares return false; } } $searchad=0; $refer = $_SERVER['HTTP_REFERER']; //if (InStr ($refer, "yahoo", false)) { $searchad=1; } 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2004年04月22日
尋找適合自己的對象,必須擴大生活圈才能有更多的選擇機會。
但是,擴大生活 圈的同時,也要放寬自己的擇友條件,
不要隨便將別人貼上「討厭」的標籤,否則,可能錯失良緣。
世界上的人,雖有千百種;
卻有一種很簡單的二分法——把所有的人分成
「喜歡的人」和 「不喜歡的人」兩類。
人與人之間,本來就有不同的磁場,光看一眼好惡立判。
有的憑 經驗、有的靠直覺。
交集多的,初初相識就一見如故。交集少的,
馬上分辨出「我們不是同一國的」。
年少的 時候,我會很得意自己擁有一眼把人看穿的敏銳度,
年紀漸長,才知道「眼光犀利」和 「表情勢利」
其實只有一線之隔,傷到別人的同時,損失最多的還是自己。
在不是很了解對方的情況下,輕率地貼上「我不喜歡這個人」的標籤,
這種先入為主的成 見,像一座堅實的城牆,
阻擋我們進一步認識對方,也失去向他學習的機會。
我曾經在《美麗人生的十大守則》這本書,讀到深有同感的一段話:
「你對他人的認知 ,其實就是自我反省的測量器。
你對別人的感覺,真正反應出的是你對自己的感覺,
跟那 個人本身的關係其實並不大。
你不可能真正愛一個人或恨一個人,除非那個人行 為,
正好反射出你對自己的愛與恨。」
當我們不喜歡一個人的時候,
很可能就是在他身上看到自己不願意面對的缺點。
唯有心懷感恩地面對,並且透過自我反省及學習,才能在這個經驗中成長。
多認識多了解,可以縮短陌生的距離
沒有什麼人是值得花力氣去貼上「我不喜歡這個人」的標籤。
外表再令人討厭的,其實 都有可愛的一面。
態度多麼卑微的人,一定也有非常值得尊敬的地方。
試著去發現別人「可愛的一面」和「值得尊敬的地方」,是自己的福氣。
從這個發現的過程中,
有很多驚喜足以破除心中的成見,豐富自己心靈的視野。
每個人都有可愛的一面,等你試著用心去發現
要試著去喜歡一個你討厭的人,的確很不簡單。
但至少,我們可以要求自己回歸原點,從做到「不討厭」對方開始。
然後,進一步地勉勵自己,說:
「我一定要看看這傢伙有什麼 好玩、可愛的地方?」
相信我,當你這麼想的時候,心扉就漸漸敞開了。
每一個人就像每一片樹葉一樣,長得都不一樣,
仔細看看,就會發現其中趣味之所在。
只要願意用心,一定可以發現別人獨特而值得喜歡的一面。
除非,你一直閉上眼睛、關緊心 門,不肯去看、去感受。
了解別人,努力發現別人可愛的地方,從自己的立場來說,是一 種付出。
但也唯有真心付出,才會領悟別人回饋給你的,一定比你付出的還要多得多!
心理學博士傑克‧柏格〈 Dr. Jack Berg〉說:
「人類內心深處一直渴求被了解,正如同花 朵需求陽光照射一般。」
友善的人際關係,其實就是從了解開始一點一滴建立起來的。
有了這種認識及準備之後,我們還是可以把世界上的人分成兩種:
一種是「初次見面就非常喜歡、投緣的人」、
而另一種是「經過了解之後,才發現他原來是一個這麼可愛的一個人!」
從此,世界上就沒有值得我們花力氣去討厭、去恨的人。
並非壞人不存在,而是我們花在結交可愛的朋友都怕時間不夠了,
哪還有什麼多餘的心力去恨別人呢?
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